Down in the DM

Down in the DM

No, this isn’t a post about Yo Gotti’s song “Down in the DM.” It’s actually another advice column for my aspiring blogger babes. I’m here to let you know that it ACTUALLY does go down in the DM.

I’m specifically referring to Instagram direct message. And NO, creeps aren’t the only ones sliding in your DMs. Brands are too!

Believe it or not, bloggers/social influencers are constantly in contact with one another via DM. Since many of us basically spend all of our time on Instagram anyway, this is a great way to reach one another. Here, we share support for one another, collaborate, discuss upcoming events and the list goes on.

For those of you that are just starting out, I’d recommend utilizing the direct message feature when trying to work with new brands. All you have to do is go to the brands page and shoot them a note. Be sure to tell them a bit about yourself and the type of collaboration you’re looking for. I also generally ask if there’s a press email I could contact. For me, this has proven to be a very successful way to collaborate with new brands. Many times, I’ll reach out or vice versa.

All in all, don’t let direct messages scare you. Instead, embrace them! I promise you’ll find this is an amazing networking tool.

Know Yo’ Worth

Know Yo’ Worth

Where are all my #boss business ladies at?!

For those of you, like me, who run your own side hustle – it’s time to listen on up. I’m here to tell you to stop getting taken advantage of! Yup, you’re reading this right.

For starters, it’s important to understand just how damn much you do and how much your expertise is worth. Unlike a fully staffed company, often times we’re doing it ALL. We’re the CEO, CFO, social media manager, public relations specialist, coordinator, photographer, web designer and the list goes on.

When you have your own business, you have to defend it. That means speaking up when needed, learning to negotiate, and watching your own back to make sure you’re not being taken advantage of.

This doesn’t mean you need to get paid for every single thing you promote because that’s just not realistic, but at the same time, you need to make sure that the relationship between yourself and the brand is mutually beneficial. I’m here to empower you to know your worth. Below, find some mock scenarios and my tips for (tastefully) speaking up.

Scenario: Your followers/engagement numbers have dramatically gone up, but you’re still getting paid the same amount.
Advice: It’s time to say something. Kindly inform the person you’ve been working with by saying something along the lines of, “I’m so happy to continue working together. However, please know that my following has greatly grown since we initially started working together, causing my rates to go up. Below, please find my revised rates and let me know of any questions!”

Scenario: A brand offers you product to shoot, but asks for you to return it afterwards. You’re also not getting paid for this.
Advice: This just isn’t fair to you. Why are you going to take the time to promote them for free for nothing in return? I’d say something along the lines of, “Thank you for your interest in collaborating. Might you have some incremental budget for a sponsored post since I’ll have to return the items? I’d love to work with your brand, but want to make sure the relationship is mutually beneficial for us both!”

Scenario: A brand wants you to take professionally shot photos, but the fee their offering you is less than the fee of your photographer.
This happens a lot! In this instance, honesty is key. I’d say, “I’m more than happy to work with a photographer to capture these images, however, unfortunately my photographer fee is higher than the price you’re offering. Do you have someone in house you can provide? If not, is there any flexibility on the fee for the campaign?”

That’s all folks. Have any more questions that aren’t answered above? Sound off below and I’ll be sure to get back to you!

How to “Model” Without Actually Being One

How to “Model” Without Actually Being One


Ok, so you can look at me and see I’m not one of the Gigi Hadid’s of the world – I’m 5’3 and curvy. Yet, being a blogger and “social influencer” has made me have to commit to getting in front of the camera and strutting my stuff, which isn’t always the most comfortable thing in the world.

Sure, you may look at my feed and see photos of me smiling or better yet – “smizing,” but what you don’t see is the 100’s of outtakes of me awkwardly talking with my mouth open or standing in the most uncomfortable/stiff positions.

So whether you’re thinking about getting in front of the camera for your own site or even posing for a Christmas card that your mom is forcing you to take, check out my tips below on faking it til’ you make it.

Modeling Tips 101: From One Non-Model to Another

  1. Wear what flatters you. Sure, bodycon dresses are in, but if you’re like me, you sure as hell aren’t about to go prance around in one. Pick something that makes you not only look good, but feel good.
  2. Remember that for every 100 photos you may only like 1. And sometimes that one shot is the money shot, so don’t let it get you down when you comb through a sea of unflattering photos.
  3. Be you! Are you smiley? Channel it. Walk around with a resting bitch face? Own it. Don’t be someone you’re not. It will come across really unnatural and forced.
  4. Work with a photographer that makes you feel comfortable. If you don’t feel yourself around the person you’re shooting with, it will translate into your photos.
  5. Look in the mirror before your shoot to see what poses make your body look the best. For example, putting one foot out in front of the other elongates your legs.
  6. Have fun! Natural, fun photos look the best, so don’t take yourself so seriously. You’re never going to be Tyra Banks at this point, so just loosen up and work it the best you know how.

Again, I’m not a professional model, but this is what works for me, so I hope they help you, too! Ps. I’ve linked to my outfit details below and also want to shout out my gorgeous rings “Mr. Wilder” and “Mr. Evan” rings from Sisters and Their Misters because when you don’t have a man on your arm, why not have two wrapped around your fingers! Check them out – I’m obsessed!

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How I Edit My Instagram Photos

How I Edit My Instagram Photos

I get a lot (and I’m talking A LOT) of questions weekly regarding my blog and social media presence. Because of this, I feel like I always have to repeat myself to different people at least a few times a week when asked. So I thought, “How could I streamline this process?”

Sure, I could charge people while acting as a consultant, but that just doesn’t seem right to me because when I was looking to get into this crazy world of blogging so many people (sometimes even strangers) helped me by offering up free advice. Knowing this, I’m going to start sharing tips and tricks via my blog for all of you to reference.

So low and behold – my tips on editing your Instagram photos and creating a cohesive feed.

What do you mean by “cohesive feed” you may ask. Take Marianna Hewitt’s Instagram for example, all of her photos have a certain look & feel, which feature blush, white and grey hues. For me, she was a huge inspiration when starting my blog, but you can’t simply copy someone. What works for them may not work for you.

For example, I’d love to have an all-blush wardrobe but my clothing budget just doesn’t allow for that and it’s unrealistic for my lifestyle to only wear the same colors. Plus, I love mixing it up and my style can vary from day to day. I’ve said this before, but some days I feel like a punk rocker and others I feel sophisticated and feminine. For me, I had to find a balance that worked to incorporate different colors, yet still looked unified.

After doing much digging and research, I landed on a few apps that I love and use for all of my photos. I’ve included a little breakdown on each below!

This app is amazing for fixing lighting in one concentrated area vs. the entire photo. For example, do you ever notice part of your photo can tend to have weird shadows or photograph a bit darker? With this app, you can select certain areas to lighten, brighten or even change the saturation on. This comes in handy a lot!

Almost every blogger I know uses VSCO to get that streamlined look I’m talking about. You can download or purchase filters. To make sure my photos stay uniform, I only switch off between two filters – A1 and A6 (they were purchased). You can play around with the app to find the colors which work best for your taste preference.

While most people use this app to edit selfies (i.e. whiten teeth, remove blemishes, etc.), it’s also really helpful for landscape photos or flatlay photos. I actually use this app for all sorts of weird things like taking wrinkles out of a piece of clothing with the “smoothing” tool or adjusting colors of the backgrounds of my flatlay photos.

Again, what works for me may not work for you, but it’s helpful to get a sense for what other bloggers are doing while you try to navigate your own personal “social media style.” Any questions? Sound of below in the comments and I’ll reply back. Plus, let me know what else you want to see my write about!

How to Become Your Own Boss

How to Become Your Own Boss

When I decided to relaunch my blog, I never realized what a whirlwind it would be and how soon I’d identify as an entrepreneur.

There are a lot of misconceptions about ‘bloggers’ or social/digital influencers and I understand why some of those labels exist. In fact, I can even relate at times since I’m a full time public relations professional whom sees the industry from two very different perspectives.

That said, the most common misconception I see is that people think blogging is a mindless job, when that is far from the truth. I’d say mostly all of the bloggers I’ve come to know are equally as intelligent as they are beautiful. All of which have two jobs – an office job and blogging on the side. My “blog friends” as I like to call them (lol, sorry girls!) are some of the most creative, thoughtful, fearless leaders I know.

Yes, at times we may live “superficial” and even “artificial” lives via social media, but what ‘haters’ aren’t seeing is the countless hours, immense research and deep knowledge of the industry that is behind every post. We collaborate, conceptualize, and create daily.

As an influencer, it is our job to grow our audience and capture the attention of virtual strangers by simply being relatable, interesting and honest. Aside from that, it’s our job to understand what each of you want to see, read and even purchase.

Luckily for me, I had a basic understanding of the blogosphere before relaunching my site, yet, there are so many things I’ve learned and continue to learn each day. From building my own website (with a little help from a friend) to growing my audience to running ads on my site, I’ve really built my brand from the ground up.

It has taken time and I still have a lot to learn. However, I’m determined to continue the momentum.  With all of this in mind, I want to empower my readers to go out and take control over their own career and/or passions. Below, I’m sharing some of my top tips for becoming your own boss and not caring what others think.

  • Stay consistent; find what you want to do and keep at it
  • Surround yourself with friends and family that support you, as you’ll soon realize who your true “friends” are
  • Don’t be afraid to ask questions; reach out to others in the industry, seek advice and read articles/watch YouTube videos
  • Step out of your comfort zone
  • Find a method that works for you to stay organized; I use my Gmail drive and calendar
  • Keep track of your finances and save receipts for every dollar you spend on launching your business
  • Be kind and humble, as you never know who may lend you a hand later down the road
  • Follow your gut, it’s always right
  • F**k the haters, seriously. Get rid of those apps that show you who unfollowed you. If they don’t want to see what you’re posting that’s their loss
  • Hit the ground running and never look back

Ready, set, go be your own #BossLady (or man)!

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