How I Learned to Motivate Myself and be Patient

How I Learned to Motivate Myself and be Patient

This past month, I found myself feeling a little blah and unmotivated when it came to running and maintaining Publyssity.com and @Publyssity on Instagram. Not only was I iffy about the content I was producing, but I was feeling like my following was at a standstill.

Since I have a full time job, I work on my blog during off hours, which means I’m either up at 6:30am shooting with my photographer or I’m staying up late at night to finish up articles and to outreach brands. Due to this, I found myself choosing to take the convenient route like shooting outside my apartment before work vs. seeking out a destination around the city with character and culture. I was going through the motions of picking out outfits, shooting them and posting them, but I wasn’t taking my time to actually style them to the best of my ability.

I’m not sure what changed, but something in me clicked while I was browsing my feed. I started to feel like I could do better because I can. Just like that, a light bulb went off in my head and I started brainstorming ways I can fulfil my vision. As such, I’ve decided to get back to blogging more vs. just focusing on Instagram content. I’m also going to seek out new areas to shoot at (first on my wish list is Dumbo). Plus, I’m going to spend more time styling and curating outfits. I’m also going to try something new – more video content! And lastly, I’m going to learn to be patient.

Instead of relishing in the success of my following thus far, I often find myself wanting more, more, more. For bloggers and social influencers, I think it’s really common and easy to feel this way. We often see the success of others and think, “Why is it taking me so long to hit my next milestone?” However, I need to learn to sit back and trust the process. Many successful bloggers I know have been at it for years and years, so I need to realize that it doesn’t just happen overnight.

So please continue to watch as I evolve and learn. After all, we’re all in this together and I couldn’t do it without all of you.

 

The Most Insta-Worthy Brunch Spots in NYC & Brooklyn

In a city full of culture and some of the world’s best cuisine, it’s easy to stumble upon a restaurant that is serving up a mean brunch. But sometimes it’s not what you’re eating; it’s how it’s presented. These days It’s all about #DoingItForTheInsta and let’s face it, a killer flat lay is almost as rewarding as a full tummy. I said, almost. 

For this reason, I’m sharing some of my favorite New York City and Brooklyn cafes and breakfast spots that not only have great menus, but swoon-worthy aesthetics to match it. From hole-in-the-walls to macaroon shops, I don’t think you’ll be disappointed.

While We’re Young, 183 W 10th St, New York, NY 10014
This place screams décor goals. If I could live there, I would. Not only is this eatery perfectly styled with blush tufting and marble counter tops, the menu items are beautifully plated, making this spot complete Insta-bait.

RIDER, 80 N 6th Street, Brooklyn, NY 11249
If you want a spot with a great ambiance and delish breakfast, look no further. This gem is the perfect mix of both. Plus, you’ll be sure to capture a share-worthy snap.

WOOPS!, multiple locations
In the mood for a little something sweet? Grab some macaroons and coffee, all while capturing the perfect photo at one of WOOPS! many locations around the city.

La Pecora Bianca, 1133 Broadway, New York, NY 10010
This Italian Eatery serves up the fluffiest eggs I’ve ever tasted. Not only is the food amazing, the ambiance is absolutely beautiful – simple, yet classy and welcoming. Sit at one of the marble table tops if you want the perfect photo.

Union Fare, 6 E 18th St, New York, NY 10003
This place defines #BrunchGoals. Between the oozing funfetti croissants and “smashes” aka loaded toasts with various toppings – you’ll be sure to not only photograph “food porn,” but you’re stomach will be thanking you for the good eats.
The Butcher’s Daughter, 581 Hudson St, New York, NY 10014 & 19 Kenmare St, New York, NY 10012
The holy grail of brunch spots. While this favorite doesn’t take reservations, it’s worth the wait. If you’re looking for vegetarian fare and juices, this is your spot. Besides, who can pass up a photo at this scenic gem?

Maman, multiple locations (NYC & Brooklyn)
This café and bakery serves family-inspired recipes from the South of France and North America. The interior mimics that of the food – classic, inviting and delectable. 

Three Seat Espresso & Barber, 137 Avenue A, New York, NY 10009
The new little spot in the East Village is the perfect place for grabbing a pastry and cappuccino. The quirky look & feel allows for a fun photo full of color and sweet treats.

Is your stomach growling yet?

How to Cut Through the “Sponsored” Bullsh*t

How to Cut Through the “Sponsored” Bullsh*t

Word to the wise – marketing works. It’s the reason that I bought a bump-it back in 2009 (obviously never wore it) and the reason why I have a Vegetti (you know that thing that turns your veggies into spaghetti). So yeah, I’ve definitely fallen victim to “buying into marketing” – literally.

So how do you know what’s real and what’s fake? Especially when it comes to the world of influencers, who’s to say we actually like the brands we’re promoting? Because we all know there is no way in hell Kim Kardashian is really eating Sugar Bear Hair Gummies on the reg.

With that, I thought it would be fun to do a little 101 on how to cut through the sponsored bullsh*t.

So let me just put this out there – I never promote brands I don’t like or wouldn’t use. In fact, I actually turn down a lot of partnerships if the brand or product doesn’t seem like something I’d actually buy on my own. That said, there are a lot of ruthless influencers who would promote dog sh*t to make a buck. So how do you figure out who’s being truthful and who’s being dishonest? Find my tips below.

  • Get to know the influencers you follow. Anyone that follows me will see that I do Instagram Story make-up tutorials semi regularly. My followers know that I’m just genuinely sharing the brands I use in order to help my followers mimic a similar look and am not getting paid to promote the items. Once you “get to know” the people you follow, you’ll understand who is trying to share advice with their audience and who is just trying to make money.
  • Do your own research. If a skincare line is doing wonders for an influencer you follow, that’s pretty promising, but all skin types are different. Be sure to do your own research to look into the chemicals in each product and read online reviews before buying.
  • DM the influencer. Sliding into someones DM’s may seem creepy, but blogger welcome feedback and questions! I’ve had plenty of people text or message me asking “does that product really work or are you just being paid to say that?” I always am truthful and am open to answering any questions my followers have. At the end of the day, we want to see you guys love the products we love, so I encourage you to ask if you have any hesitation.
  • Trust your gut. Do you ever have a moment where you realllllly want something, but your favorite Bachelorette contestant just posted it and you feel like buying it would make you a total sellout? My advise – who cares! If you want it, buy it. It doesn’t matter where you saw it, it just matters that you genuinely like it.

Any additional questions that I may have not answered? Feel free to leave it in the comments and I’ll get back to you!

An Ode to Female Bloggers on International Women’s Day

An Ode to Female Bloggers on International Women’s Day

An ode to my fellow female bloggers on Internal Women’s Day

I commend you

Because, I too, can relate to working at 12 hour day

Yet, still having a full “to-do”

Not always being taken seriously

The chatter behind our backs

The weight of balancing two gigs

Yet still prevailing

Supporting one another

Supporting women

This is our passion

And we choose to live it with the odds against us

And for that, I commend us.

Wake & Shake

Wake & Shake

I’m a huge breakfast lover. I really don’t feel like I perform my best at work if I’m not properly fueled. The last few months I’ve gotten into a slump of wasting money on buying “healthy” breakfasts like $10 juices or scrambled eggs (which I’m sure they cook in butter). Although I thought I was eating healthy, my body was telling me otherwise. Sure, I’d love to make breakfast every morning, but that isn’t always realistic when you’re running out the door.

When I decided to partner with 310 Nutrition, I wasn’t just doing it for the sake of a sponsored post – I genuinely wanted to try the product after hearing such amazing reviews. Let me tell you, it doesn’t disappoint and I’m a complete convert. The 310 Shake is a meal replacement shake that uses only top-shelf ingredients to promote a healthy body as you achieve a healthy weight. As background, a lot of the shakes on the market contain inferior soy protein, unpronounceable chemical ingredients (yuck!), as well as sugars and fillers that might taste yummy but end up hurting your results in the long run.

The reason why 310 Shake is so effective and successful is because of its nutritional profile. Unlike competitors, it is produced in a scientifically-proven way that preserves nutrients and contains ingredients that your body needs to stay healthy. The brand new Plant-Based 310 Shake contains the optimum ratio of proven Tri-Plex™ proteins, which includes Pea, Brown Rice, and Hemp (don’t worry you don’t taste these items). Check out the little chart below that I find super helpful in showcasing what you’re really getting for your money.

So now that you know what you’ll be drinking, let’s move on to the fun part – recipes! I’ve been drinking the shakes every morning for the past two weeks and I love the taste! In the morning, I take 1 scoop of protein powder (I’ve been digging the chocolate, which is ironic because I’m generally not a chocolate fan) and mix it in a blender with either berries or a banana, a flax/chia seed blend, a scoop of almond butter and some almond milk. It’s delicious and holds me over until lunch time. Plus, it’s so easy to drink on the go! Since I live in the city and often take the subway or bus, I drink the shake during my commute and am ready to get to work once I’m in my office.

As a personal next step (and since summer is around the corner), I’m going to begin replacing two meals per day with shakes. As we all know, no diet is sustainable if you are constantly hungry and battling cravings! But by simply replacing one to two meals with 310 Shake, I’ll still be able to eat my favorite foods while slashing my daily calorie consumption.

If you have any questions at all, please feel free to comment below and I’d be happy to answer or provide recipes/suggestions! For more information, check out the 310 Nutrition website and be sure to use my code ‘310quality‘ when purchasing product for 25% off (excludes bundles and sale items)!